How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
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Stewart Nell
Stewart Nell Hace un hora
Really deep and meaningful
Zabi Saboori
Zabi Saboori Hace 2 horas
When You focus on the intention of the other person, There's no need to take it personally..... This dude is a legend
Martijn
Martijn Hace 11 horas
Show this to Michael Jordan
Akbar Ali
Akbar Ali Hace 19 horas
im speechless this was amazing!!
Seyfo03
Seyfo03 Hace 19 horas
Is there even sitting someone in front of him? So silent damn
Ajey Nager
Ajey Nager Hace 22 horas
16:13 while taking out his 20 Euros note, he accidentally dropped a coin. I don't know if he noticed or not but I wanted to point it out.
shubhank sharma
shubhank sharma Hace un día
Amazing man good job. Thanks a lot.
Vortex
Vortex Hace un día
i think its in my dna to not take things seriously and make horrible comedy out of it and i feel personally attacked by that.
Junaidi Ismail
Junaidi Ismail Hace un día
easier said than done.
Harman Kaur
Harman Kaur Hace un día
Thanks
Nishant Raina
Nishant Raina Hace un día
Amazing talk! Awesome conclusion! Lots of respect!
Jessica gray
Jessica gray Hace un día
His teaching relates to my thinking. This is helping a chang in my thinking ,and is helping my high blood pressure.
💣10mrbomber🚀
💣10mrbomber🚀 Hace un día
This is so true for me i need to change n be more happy n chill in this sense
Lina A
Lina A Hace un día
I remember there was a class in my middle school that was similar to this I think was named 'Character development.' Just putting it out there if anyone wants to learn more about topics like these.
Chris Mosner
Chris Mosner Hace un día
Majestic and breathtaking. You are so right about being fortunate to live beneath dark skies. Millions around the globe are, sadly, cut off rom the universe in a very real way. This was your finest opening, Richard! That Sony does great things with video at night. Maybe you can now better capture a light painting session so we can see your timings and technique?
Shalini Jain
Shalini Jain Hace un día
Loved the last 20euros example
Deriv Trading Community
Deriv Trading Community Hace un día
We need a Tedx Talks School 😊
Nets 4 Change
Nets 4 Change Hace un día
As a performer, I too wondered why the audience would be quite when I would perform on stage. Like many people here are wondering the same question about this audience. One day I asked a seasoned performer if he knew why the audience wasn’t clapping or being more vocal... he told me that the when a performance is so good, the audience is captivated by the presentation that they don’t think to clap or show emotion. It all makes sense because at the end of every show we would get a standing ovation. Crazy how that works. And in the theater world being quite is good etiquette as well. You literally have to tell the audience they can clap and make noise.
Diegomolinams98
Diegomolinams98 Hace un día
Epic ending
Claire Jones
Claire Jones Hace un día
Yesterday someone asked me if I was insecure about my body and I lied to them and told them no I love my body. It definitely needs some work but I love it nonetheless because it is mine and mine only... I felt attacked by the mere question that I cried my eyes out until I fell asleep. Maybe the person was raising this seeing how I'm always so reserved and unconfident ... Or it is about me... The fact that it is hard to look at myself in the mirror, take pictures and post them, wear fashionable clothes like girls my age or even walk down the street without my arms crossed and head pointed at the ground... But you see, these are things you can't tell people... As a girl who grew up without a mother around... there are things that affect the way you view yourself... But this guy brings an interesting idea to my head. It is so simple but hardly ever practiced. I'm not in need of sympathy, I just wanted to share my piece of story and tell you to stay strong.
Zaria Lane
Zaria Lane Hace 2 días
how handsome of a man. thanks for the talk.
Jade Dadiz
Jade Dadiz Hace 2 días
Bars
Tara Henry
Tara Henry Hace 2 días
XXXXX
Nicolas Shalaty
Nicolas Shalaty Hace 2 días
Good stuff✌️
Mauri Nicolas
Mauri Nicolas Hace 2 días
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Imagine that Productions
Imagine that Productions Hace 2 días
Thank you
Bence Sárközi
Bence Sárközi Hace 2 días
People on the internet especially twitch, twitter, reddit should see this and take his advice. I am fcking tired of banning words on forums and see whining people on meme subreddits that they got offended by something that's not offensive in any way.
chaitanya velamala
chaitanya velamala Hace 2 días
I am just here to see the other side of the story
reganmcneilonacid
reganmcneilonacid Hace 2 días
this is some polyanna naive kind of wishy washy thiinking and quite harming. you can take this personally
Zakir Chowdhory
Zakir Chowdhory Hace 2 días
Just love it, thank you.
Immortal
Immortal Hace 2 días
What if he shits on the 20EUR - who wants it then?:)
M
M Hace 2 días
OMG. The ending was GOLD. A huge thank you Frederick for this much-needed pep talk.
Federico Tarroni
Federico Tarroni Hace 2 días
Hi Frederik, thanks very much!
Lelan Tanphuc
Lelan Tanphuc Hace 2 días
Yang milih allah like yg Mili dajal hirawkan 1:39.........m.
apoorva mahajan
apoorva mahajan Hace 2 días
Wow sir that was really really helpful❤️❤️
Brian Tanner
Brian Tanner Hace 3 días
I cried when he said "No matter what people say, you will always keep you value." Hit me like a ton of bricks.
Lo Med
Lo Med Hace un día
So wholesome 😭
Do Ngoc Quynh
Do Ngoc Quynh Hace 3 días
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ecefw
ecefw Hace 3 días
I was really glad that i'd stumbled on this video and this was my first time that I watched ted talk that I really finished it. At the end of the video it was a very thought-provoking metephor. I even smiled at the end of the video while he said "You will always keep your value."
Devineee Visionary
Devineee Visionary Hace 3 días
This guy is a genius
erratic_calm
erratic_calm Hace 3 días
I needed this today. Thanks, Google.
Fuji Honjo
Fuji Honjo Hace 3 días
In conclusion: $20 is $20
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Amen Sister
Amen Sister Hace 3 días
Wonderful public speaking and suberb ending! Will have to use that sometime!!!
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Joseph Mills
Joseph Mills Hace 3 días
9:54 my thoughts exactly
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
Whatzapp ✅
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊😊
logan swartz
logan swartz Hace 3 días
i showed this to my girlfriend but she took it personally
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
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Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
Whatzapp
Jenifer Ryan
Jenifer Ryan Hace 3 días
All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak Hace 3 días
We need this sooo much, because people are becoming soo rude, and not gentle
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak Hace 3 días
This must be one of the best videos of the year! Impressive, thx
ALWestcott
ALWestcott Hace 3 días
“You will always keep your value”. Wow so powerful!
greg boley
greg boley Hace 3 días
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Fidel Livino
Fidel Livino Hace 3 días
This is what should be called motivational video. I loved it
Milly Thimaras
Milly Thimaras Hace 3 días
Love this
mosomo17
mosomo17 Hace 3 días
That ending..wow! "Wipes tear from eye"
thuy Pham
thuy Pham Hace 3 días
Be honest, open-minded and comunicate is the key of almost social interface problems in some kind of society. (shouldnt generalize things however i am just trying to contrast by using my limited expericence ) :)
Míša Doležalová
Míša Doležalová Hace 3 días
Awesome talk!
Enes Misini
Enes Misini Hace 4 días
Kevin De Bruyne, you are not a referee but a Manchester city player
The Opinionated Pug
The Opinionated Pug Hace 4 días
Beautiful words 💚
george amaxopoulos
george amaxopoulos Hace 4 días
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birdieculture
birdieculture Hace 4 días
I guess sometimes we take things personally becoz we have this justice mentality, yet we might not know the difference between "true justice" and "perceived justice". In the case of this referee example, he WAS doing the players a "favour" by making sure the game is played according to the rules, rules in which both sides agreed on. But those who want to win without playing by the rules get angry. They simply don't deserve his "favour", or even the right to play. These bad players have a "perceived justice" a.k.a. "u let me win = justice", yet we know "true justice" is when everyone play by the rules fairly and win. So, in conclusion: learn what "true justice" is, don't go and perceive your own version of what justice is, coz "true justice" is / should be appreciated by everyone, even when we are human and sometimes just don't do so.
Ed
Ed Hace 4 días
Came here thinking it was Prince Harry talking about dealing with what people are saying about him and Megan.
Ed
Ed Hace 17 horas
@Critter Tales lol
Piper T. Kanari
Piper T. Kanari Hace 19 horas
omg lol
Critter Tales
Critter Tales Hace un día
I clicked thinking it was Owen Hunt from Grey's Anatomy in the thumbnail 👀
Mónica Salinas
Mónica Salinas Hace 4 días
Thank you so much
D_ MonTequila
D_ MonTequila Hace 4 días
Thank you
Jeannee Jean
Jeannee Jean Hace 4 días
Trump is an orange 🤷🏽‍♀️💁🏽‍♀️
Mino Chou
Mino Chou Hace 4 días
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Shy Guy Mercedes Benz
Shy Guy Mercedes Benz Hace 4 días
I'm putting this comment here... for ME
gruenerfux
gruenerfux Hace 4 días
How would you measure 50000 thoughts?
Sergio Renteria
Sergio Renteria Hace 4 días
I do take things personally and it sucks man fr even I admit it it Destroys me from meeting new people, this vid explain it all thank you
rysiek085
rysiek085 Hace 4 días
Am I the only one who doesn't love the ending? I thought it was quite a cheap shot tbh. Liked the rest though
Fe Dosumu
Fe Dosumu Hace 2 días
how it's the best part
BLENDABLE
BLENDABLE Hace 4 días
I came here to make sure this want the red headed doctor from grey's anatomy
Dee S. Olafsen
Dee S. Olafsen Hace 4 días
Good talk. . .the ending was 👌
dynamiczero
dynamiczero Hace 4 días
I remember once when I still played soccer as a teenager, I was talking with a teammate since we both were reserve players, and I said something funny that made him laugh. The referee saw that and came, sanctioning my friend because he thought he was laughing at him. Probably the opposite of the speaker in this video
Simi Ahluwalia
Simi Ahluwalia Hace 4 días
fantastic!
Aryan Yuvraj
Aryan Yuvraj Hace 4 días
Michael Jordan wants to know your location . and mind u sir you r on his list.
Simone Bosman- Zomer
Simone Bosman- Zomer Hace 4 días
That's what I did. Taking it personally, then tell my boss I don't like that way. I did it 3 times but at the 3rd time I added that I would go look for another job. I was the first one to speak up ever and now at least she knows. I was unemployed for 3 months (2nd lockdown was also happening) and then I got a job interview in wich I exactly told what I like and don't like. They hired me. 💪. I hope this is, at 46, the beginning of more happiness and confidence. I happen to see this video after the interview so why did I do it the way I did? I did a MyersBriggs personality test and I learned that there are more like me. Knowing that helped me🙂
Silvio M
Silvio M Hace 4 días
When you focus on the intention of the other person, you're basically showing empathy for the other person, right?
Ria Esf
Ria Esf Hace 2 días
you can show empathy towards others without necessarily allowing their behaviour to affect you.
isipisi
isipisi Hace 5 días
thank you so much
Eko Onyi
Eko Onyi Hace 5 días
Only 20e per match ? I dont believe it 🤣
Shan Howard
Shan Howard Hace 5 días
My ego does not approve this message.
Captain Fruit
Captain Fruit Hace 5 días
I was really really impressed... Thank you more than what I can explain. You talked warmly and pleasantly, and explained easily and simply. I imagine that your coin-two-strategies will help me a lot. You are the one of the most touching speechers in my life.
guzel dayz
guzel dayz Hace 5 días
Well done.
Ярослав Немирович
Ярослав Немирович Hace 5 días
Interestingly enough, I came to using this strat without even realizing it while working as technical support. I sometimes deal with people that are upset about recent changes or about the fact that something broke and they want to blame IT services as a whole and they tell it to me but I've realized - it's not about me. It wasn't me who broke their computer, so why should I feel bad about it? That allowed me to focus on fixing the issues and resulted in much better customer service. Thank you for putting this strategy into words, much appreciated
Gerard Ligonde
Gerard Ligonde Hace 5 días
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Mmili Lo
Mmili Lo Hace 5 días
Awww his speech was so cute!
FauneTV
FauneTV Hace 5 días
place SPANISH translator please!!
Nothando Sithole
Nothando Sithole Hace 5 días
Bienvenidos a Bankrupcy.
Nothando Sithole
Nothando Sithole Hace 5 días
My B money grows once I plant’s H.E.R first tree. Not marijuana. THC. or Meth.
Ger Lo
Ger Lo Hace 5 días
I needed this.
The Comment
The Comment Hace 5 días
Stop trying to seek validation from people that don’t f wit you
AbdullaDoo
AbdullaDoo Hace 5 días
Awesome. Greetings from Brazil
Lucyyy
Lucyyy Hace 5 días
Learned more from this than my therapist.
Super Sai
Super Sai Hace 5 días
Me and Micahel Jordan disliked this video.
John Henderson
John Henderson Hace 4 días
Hahahahaha, good one.
Daniel Young
Daniel Young Hace 5 días
Did anybody @ Michael Jordan yet?
Roby Fischer
Roby Fischer Hace 5 días
Michael Jordan seeing that video :
Keilie Velasquez
Keilie Velasquez Hace 5 días
Best Ted talk I’ve ever seen so far !
Roni Hossain
Roni Hossain Hace 5 días
WoW..... Its great presentation sir🙏🙏😍😍
Cont Fazza 《Main》
Cont Fazza 《Main》 Hace 5 días
Great Performance.
Siddhant Bista Chettri
Siddhant Bista Chettri Hace 5 días
Never knew Kevin De bruyne gave ted talks
Arya Danih Lesmana
Arya Danih Lesmana Hace 5 días
This is what I need right now, youtube algorithm is such a mystery
Abiya Fellak
Abiya Fellak Hace 3 días
Me too 🙏
Jaeda Davis
Jaeda Davis Hace 5 días
This was a great watch. I recommend.
Ridmi Perera
Ridmi Perera Hace 5 días
what if they don't understand my feelings or care about my situation even if i didn't blame them ?
Harsh
Harsh Hace 5 días
Dam lines after 16:15 took my ❤️
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo Hace 5 días
Hi, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Erik Aston
Erik Aston Hace 6 días
great speaker, seems like a good dude.
Frederik Imbo
Frederik Imbo Hace 5 días
Hi Erik, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo
Sreekala Vijayarudran
Sreekala Vijayarudran Hace 6 días
I heard it on loop twice just to soak this wisdom .. I so need to get this right , Thanku 😇😇
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